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R&R means Rompers and Romance
Contributed by Corrine & Ming 37 and 39 years old respectively
Many friends have asked us how we manage to do “couple things” even though we have two sons aged 10 and 4. They say its wishful thinking on their part. Well, we couldn’t agree more.
You see, WE make a wish list. Every two months, we write our own personal list of six things we would like to do together. Then we share our list with each other and agree to accomplish four or five of those wishes. Some of our wishes have included a movie marathon, trying out a new restaurant, learning to dive, and event heading to Hong Kong for the weekend.
As we both take the MRT to work at City Hall or Raffles place, our journey together gives us some extra time to talk to each other. Once a week, we arrange to meet somewhere in between our work places to have lunch together. Just us, no colleagues.
Another way we keep romance alive is by making a concerted effort to share parenting responsibilities. We take turns reading with the boys, taking them to their music lessons, or going shopping for a birthday gift. This way, we each have alone time with our sons, and neither of us feels like one person is taking on too many chores. Our children also love the one-on-one time with each of us.
When it comes to housework, we all have specific chores to complete either on Friday evenings or Saturday afternoons. Although we do have a live-in domestic helper, we feel it’s important for our children to realize that nobody is here to wait on them hand and foot. Their chores include cleaning their bikes, hanging the laundry out to dry, and spring-cleaning their rooms. On top of those, they each take turns daily to set the table or clear up after our meals.
As you can, we don’t really have any elaborate plans on how to keep our marriage going strong. Family life is what we make of it. We often remind our children not to become complacent and forget our family duties. If parents make the effort to be happy adults, we believe our children will learn by example.
Couple time is important for all parents! This way, when our children grow up and lead their own lives, we won’t look at each other and wonder who is this stranger living with us in the same house.
Contributed by Corrine & Ming 37 and 39 years old respectively
Many friends have asked us how we manage to do “couple things” even though we have two sons aged 10 and 4. They say its wishful thinking on their part. Well, we couldn’t agree more.
You see, WE make a wish list. Every two months, we write our own personal list of six things we would like to do together. Then we share our list with each other and agree to accomplish four or five of those wishes. Some of our wishes have included a movie marathon, trying out a new restaurant, learning to dive, and event heading to Hong Kong for the weekend.
As we both take the MRT to work at City Hall or Raffles place, our journey together gives us some extra time to talk to each other. Once a week, we arrange to meet somewhere in between our work places to have lunch together. Just us, no colleagues.
Another way we keep romance alive is by making a concerted effort to share parenting responsibilities. We take turns reading with the boys, taking them to their music lessons, or going shopping for a birthday gift. This way, we each have alone time with our sons, and neither of us feels like one person is taking on too many chores. Our children also love the one-on-one time with each of us.
When it comes to housework, we all have specific chores to complete either on Friday evenings or Saturday afternoons. Although we do have a live-in domestic helper, we feel it’s important for our children to realize that nobody is here to wait on them hand and foot. Their chores include cleaning their bikes, hanging the laundry out to dry, and spring-cleaning their rooms. On top of those, they each take turns daily to set the table or clear up after our meals.
As you can, we don’t really have any elaborate plans on how to keep our marriage going strong. Family life is what we make of it. We often remind our children not to become complacent and forget our family duties. If parents make the effort to be happy adults, we believe our children will learn by example.
Couple time is important for all parents! This way, when our children grow up and lead their own lives, we won’t look at each other and wonder who is this stranger living with us in the same house.